Okay guys, I had a hard time with these virtues. How do you become graceful? What does being graceful look like? I did my best and came up with these goals and barriers.
Graceful and Sincere
|Don’t curse||Let anger or my desire to be humorous control my speech|
|Don’t compliment someone unless I genuinely mean it||Desire to please|
|Don’t make plans that you know you aren’t going to keep||Desire to please|
Guys, my potty mouth is so bad sometimes. I oftentimes feel like a joke would be so much funnier if I threw a curse word in there once or twice. Truth is, it honestly doesn’t make the joke funnier.
It also limits my vocabulary. Instead of saying something was f***ing bad, why don’t I say it was horrible?
There are so many other words I can use to express the level of badness that something was rather than inserting a curse word to accentuate my point.
As for anger, my anger does not control me, I control it so why, if I don’t want to curse, do I curse when I’m angry? Practicing not cursing when I’m angry can also help me to exert control over myself when I’m angry
I know last virtue that I complimented a lot of people. That was good because they were all sincere compliments.
However, I sometimes have the tendency to compliment people out of nervousness instead of genuineness.
While it is good to compliment people often, I need to do it only when I genuinely like that attribute about the person.
A fake compliment doesn’t do anyone any good and I should not be spreading them.
This is a really bad habit that I have. Someone will ask me to do something on a certain night when I know I am not going to be able to hang out and even though I know I can’t go, I say yes anyways and end up canceling later.
Why is this????!!
Because I want to please them and honestly do want to hang out with them, but just can’t that night.
I need to be more forthright about my plans and make actual plans to hang out instead of just appease them in the moment and cancel later and this is the perfect virtue to work on for that.
The other day I signed up to help move freshmen into their dorms before school started. I told my friend that I would be there to help her around 10 am.
Then, after I had already signed up for that, my other friend invited me to go get tea with him that very same morning. Usually (and I know this is bad), I would have said yes to both and just “figured it out later” (aka canceled on one of them).
Thankfully, I remembered that I was doing this challenge and asked him if we could get tea another time. It’s weird because this honestly is not a big deal, we could get tea anytime, but it’s so strange saying no to hang out with someone. It’s honestly something that I, and I know a lot of other girls too, struggle with.
Saying no is hard. In my opinion, everyone, but girls especially, are taught to please everyone and make sure everyone is happy and that shouldn’t be our job.
It’s not our job.
So this was just a little step in starting to say no more often in order to become a more sincere and genuine person.
Guys, honestly, this was not the easiest virtue to implement. I’m not sure I quite understand how to embody “gracefulness”.
Do any of y’all know?
How do you embody gracefulness into your life? It’s not something that comes to my mind as easily as the other virtues.
Throughout this challenge, everyone will have virtues that they find easy or hard to incorporate.
Gracefulness is one of the ones I find harder to incorporate. I don’t think is one I could accomplish in one week, but maybe over 6 months.
I’ll keep updating this post as situations that test my gracefulness and sincerity arise.
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