Last week, I tried to cultivate femininity by placing emphasis on being nurturing, receptive, and sensitive.
The week had its ups and downs but overall was a great introduction to the virtue challenge and really made me think about what being feminine means.
Additionally, it made me excited for this week’s virtues, gentleness and kindness. Now, let’s define these two. Catholic Culture defines gentleness and kindness as…
“As a fruit of the Holy Spirit, it is a perfection of love which tempers justice by avoiding any unnecessary action that might provoke anger or resentment.”
“One of the fruits of the Holy Spirit; the quality of understanding sympathy and concern for those in trouble or need. It is shown in affability of speech, generosity of conduct, and forgiveness of injuries sustained.”
An example of gentleness would be to not respond negatively when someone calls you a bad name or does something unjust towards you.
Instead, responding with gentleness mitigates the situation instead of wreaking more havoc. There are so many good examples of kindness, it is hard to choose just one.
Kindness can present itself in so many ways, big and small. One example of kindness is to let someone behind you go in front of you at the grocery store.
This has happened to me many times and I try to do it for others as well. Another is to open the door for someone who is behind you.
These acts of kindness can be done many times throughout the day and are a great and easy way to show someone else Christ’s love.
My 3 goals and barriers to practicing kindness and gentleness.
Gentle and Kind
|Compliment others more||Being shy|
|Genuinely smile more||Being removed from what’s going on|
|Be slow to anger||Hastiness in speech or decision making|
Guys, the other day I completely blew up at my friend. We had made plans to go to a Bible study that evening, but I decided I wanted to go to happy hour with my friend because it was her last day at work.
Normally, I completely agree that canceling plans with someone for other plans is wrong and rude. However, I had seen this friend 3-4 times a week this whole summer and only seen these other friends once a week, maybe.
So, I texted my friend and asked if we could hang out earlier in the day instead of that night so I could go to happy hour.
She responded and called me out for being rude and canceling our plans to go hang out with other people. I, then, blew up at her and was essentially like, how dare you tell me I’m being rude, blah, blah, blah.
Not the best look right?
I was not being very kind or gentle in that moment. I explained to her my reasoning for canceling our plans, but I did not do it in a nice way.
We talked on the phone later and I apologized, but it got me thinking about how much I need to work on being gentle and kind.
Today, I finished Matthew Kelly’s book Perfectly Yourself.
Review to come 🙂
In the last part of the book, it talks about how our mission in life is serving others. He then goes on to explain different ways that we can serve each other. One of the ways that he explains is by giving each other a gift each time we see each other.
This gift can come in the form of a hug, a compliment, or a nice genuine smile. It got me thinking because I always think of a gift as a material thing that I can give someone and that they can either eat or keep haha.
However, today I started to incorporate these non-material gifts into my routine and I loved it! I don’t normally compliment random people I don’t know, but today I saw this girl walking past me wearing a cute romper and I complimented her on it.
Even though I was a little nervous to compliment someone I didn’t know, the smile across her face made it all worth it. Her reaction encouraged me to give a gift to the next person I saw.
A couple of hours after this interaction, I went to go pick my skirts up from the tailors. The lady was wearing a very pretty black lace dress and I complimented her on it. She looked at me with eyes filled with joy and told me it was from “a very long time ago.”
I think I complimented something that had sentimental value to her which made it all the better.
We never know how our compliments are going to affect someone, but we can offer them to people freely as gifts and as a way to be gentle and kind.
What are the ways that you show gentleness and kindness to others? Let me know in the comments below!
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